Right now, as you know, I have my eye on a certain someone. But there are also a few other chicks that I see on a regular basis where I like to hang out.

I enjoy chatting to them, making eye contact, smiling and so on. But have I shown them that I’m a sex-worthy guy? Probably not.

For one, I need a new wardrobe. A bad wardrobe is like holding out a sign saying “AFC”. Unfortunately, money is a big problem for me right now so there is little I can do about this for a short while.

Of course it’s also about attitude and especially confidence as well – that’s something that can only evolve I hope, especially through practice.

Anyway, a bit of a rambling post but I hope you see what I mean. Don’t become the “friend”, become the “lover”. It’s possible that my chance with one of the chicks has gone because I have spent several hours in her company now and it may be too late. But for the others there is still some hope

You see that girl and you have to have her, I know the feeling well. In this article, I’ll show you hot to get a girl to like you – in fact, how to get any girl to like you.

Got A Crush?

I know the feeling. I’ve been there, smitten with “love”, ideas that she is “the one”. I’ll explain shortly why this is not healthy.

But regardless of whether you are looking at one or many women, the techniques are almost all the same.

The problem with going for one girl though is that if you have already known her a long time then you may already be in that “friends” zone. This can be hard to break.

Try the universal techniques below that I mention. Also, it is even more so a good strategy to just “be yourself”. Someone you know this well – you can only show her your true side. Be proud of who you are and don’t hide it.

Widen Your Pool – Better For Your Self Esteem

If you don’t know her too well then the techniques below will work well.

But anyway, why are you so obsessed with one girl?

It is unhealthy for a man to be obsessed with one girl. What I recommend is to do what I’m doing: keep your options open on her but also continue to try and date other girls. If you do this, your attitude and confidence will change and you will actually become more attractive to the original girl! She will sense that you are not a chump but a man!

Some great techniques to use:

• Don’ t face her with your body stance, go side-on.
• Go in for the kino within 30 seconds of meeting a girl. This shows you are a real man and will put her at comfort.
• Be cocky and funny – girls love this. It does help to have some vivid stories memorized in the most concise way, ready to relay to her. Girls love imagination.
• A change of scenery will allow you to escalate to the next stage e.g. kissing, taking her home etc.

Discover the techniques to make any woman helplessly attracted to you and become the alpha male that she wants here: How To Become An Alpha Male.

How To Approach A Girl At The Bar

The good thing about the bar is that you can get easier access to the girl. There is less noise and she won’t be dancing so you don’t need to interrupt her.

If she’s on her own and ordering a drink then simply get next to her and be ordering a drink yourself. This side by side position is great for approaching women.

Again, if she’s with friends and they are enjoying a drink at the bar then just do the same thing and say “hello”.

The music will still be fairly loud so you will need to get close to them to be heard. If there are two chicks, then get in the middle of them and communicate to both of them – cool guys don’t leave people out and you will have a higher status for this.

How To Approach A Girl On The Dance Floor

The dance floor is a different game to the bar altogether. It is much noisier here, sometimes so noisy that you cannot be heard even if you are talking into someone’s ear.

I prefer to wait for girls to return to the bar when making my approaches but I know some guys who are successful on the dance floor.

One thing I have seen is for a guy to just take the girl’s hand and lead her off the dance floor. You must do this with plenty of balls of course. Sometimes you can shout in her ear “come with me”. This will be a numbers game and many chicks won’t do it but many will and you have already earned some attraction points with them by the time you reach the bar.

Of course, you can always try to dance off with them or try the “grinding from behind” technique but this is usually the hallmark of a chump and I don’t advise it!

Bars & Clubs

OK, I’m sure you’ve already tried these and now you’re looking for something new to try. But let me just add that you need to remember that B&Cs do have their advantages.

Women expect to be picked up there so are receptive to it even though it might not always seem that way. Also, the loud music makes it easier to get close and do some kino to build attraction. See more about that at my earlier post here: How To Pick Up Women At A Bar.

Other Places

But chance are that you are no longer interested in just B&Cs. Let’s see a few other good places to pick up chicks.

Supermarket

This is a great place. Women here are not in transit on the way to somewhere else. And people walk slowly and stop to inspect something they might want.

Here you can just ask them a question as an opener. Say the chick is looking at fruit, you can ask something mundane like “are they good?” Anything to just grab her attention.

At Work

Some people never mix business and pleasure which is generally a good idea. But if your work puts you in brief contact with people all over the company then there is little danger in following this up. However, if you live in the USA I would be extremely cautious due to the sexual harassment laws there.

Public Transport

This is a great way of talking to girls. When you get onto a tram or a train or a bus and see a woman sitting on her own with a free seat next to her then go straight to it. Most guys are chumps and won’t “dare” to do that. You can immediately prove that you are different before even striking up a conversation with her.

Walking Around

All of these methods are called “day game” (as opposed to “night game”). Ultimately, you should be aiming to improve your techniques so that you can pull chicks in the middle of the street and attract them.

Why settle for second best when you can aim for the very top. The ultimate result you want is to have the confidence and abilities to get several numbers every day and have several semi/full girlfriends at the same time. To do this, you need to master approaching girls in the street.

I say “master” but that implies a lot of learning and hard work. In fact, all it requires is pure balls. The first few approaches will be hard but after that you should not have any problems. Some guys do boot camps for this very purpose but others rely simply on good training guides such as those by Mystery and RSD.

The Friends Zone

Women need to know fairly early that you have ultimate sexual intentions for them.  Maybe you only have just started to be attracted to her in that way but probably you would not have said no if she was offering herself to you early in your friendship, I’m sure!

The problem is that the friendship was established early and cannot be broken in a simple moment. So what can you do?

Positive Changes

First of all, it could be that you are more like the average “nice guy” than the cocky and cool guy that she wants and that you should want to be. Commit yourself now to educating yourself about seduction. Sure, I’m giving you some tips but like any other education, seduction learning is ongoing and always interesting.

What this will do for you is give you an increased confidence, both inner and also with women too. She will notice these positive differences in you and should react well, becoming more attracted to you.

Change Of Scene

It is difficult to just start to suddenly use techniques and pull off lots of kino if you never did that before. But if you change the scene or make some kind of dramatic change in setting then the changes within yourself will seem more appropriate.

So you might want to pick a suitable time to make more obvious these positive changes. For example, you could go away on holiday for 2 weeks and come back and start your moves on her. You can simply attribute it to a “life changing holiday” or something like that.

Attraction

Ultimately, if she becomes attracted to you then she cannot help but fall for you. But the onus is on you to show her the more positive side of yourself because otherwise she will simply remain as just a friend.

Statements

A lot of guys when starting out tend to ask a ton of questions. I was guilty of this myself and still am from time to time. Basically you keep asking a girl a ton of questions and she is quite hooked onto you initially. This is great for keeping mystery about yourself (makes you more attractive) and keeps her interested (people love to talk about themselves).

But what happens is that you soon reach the “friends zone” and you will not get any further with this chick. Her interest for you will wane. This is because you basically didn’t take any risks or chances with her. A guy has to do that to prove his sex-worthiness.

So instead, you need to make some statements to generate a reaction from her. This will be attractive to her. Ideally you want these statements to combine humour and cockiness. I mentioned this earlier already but look out for my review of David DeAngelo’s cocky and funny. I only mention it because I have heard that it is really good but I have not seen it myself (and I normally do not like DDA’s style, I find him boring! Nevertheless I will give it a go).

Sexual Innuendos

Here we get back again to being daring and taking risks. If you talk about “safe” subjects with a girl then pretty soon you will get into the friends zone with her. You need to make it clear to her that you are not interested in being just her friend, that you want more with her.

One way to do this is with some kino as I have mentioned in earlier posts. The other way is through what you say. You need to tell her stuff like “stop hitting on me” or “you girls are really naughty!” etc.

Be Different

Try not to ask the usual questions that you would have with someone such as “what do you do?” and “where do you live” etc.

Not only are these associated in her mind as questions that would come from a “potential friend” or even an associate of some sort but they also lead on to even more boring subjects that will only steer you away from the game at hand.

It will be tempting but you should try to resist!

Anyway, look out for my review, I will edit this post with a link when it is done.

Why Bars Are A Good Place

When a woman goes out to a bar, she expects to be hit on. This means that you don’t need to grab her attention like you would when walking down the street and trying to get a chick. All you need in a bar is a simple opener of some sort.

Also, bars especially these days are very loud places. This encourages people to be louder and more clear in the way they talk. This will help enhance your confidence and appear more like a “cool guy”. Additionally, this also means that you must get close to the chick just to talk to her – this could mean alternating talking into each others’ ears – this makes also a great opportunity to kino her as you will be very close – so go for the kino on the arm, the waist etc.

Techniques

Don’t waste too much time on a chick in a bar. The great thing is that there are so many people and therefore so many opportunities to get some digits.

It is a good idea to try and team up with a wingman. Although you can pick up chicks solo, this is more suited to “day game”. For some reason, people still have the idea that going to a bar alone is “weird” and despite your confidence, this may be hard for them to shake off. If you have a wingman then you can both approach groups, either all-girl groups or mixed boy-girl groups.

Remember, when approaching a group to acknowledge the guys too, at least at first. This means kino on the guys too, there’s nothing gay about it and it won’t be perceived that way – remember, kino is what cool guys do all the time! As always, good body language is a must – see my earlier post here.

Otherwise, all the usual techniques apply. Bars will give you an advantage but just don’t drink too much (or don’t drink at all even).

Tricks

It is worth learning a few cool bar tricks. They can just make for something interesting to do and excite people with. Of course, the better and more difficult to pull off the trick, the more kudos you get for doing it.

But how do you attract these older women? Do you have to play a different game than with younger women? Are all women really just the same? Let’s take a closer look at how to attract older women.

The General Rule

The general rule is that women are attracted to older men and men are attracted to younger women. This is mostly due to primitive and evolutionary reasoning.

Women rear the children and dedicate a long time to pregnancy. They cannot go out and protect or do foraging for food. For this reason, they look to find a man who is physically bigger which is why tall guys have an advantage. However, maturity is just as important as the more mature and experienced a guy is – the greater protection he provides.

Men just look for pure genetics. They want to spread their seed and get the best genetic combination for their offspring. Youth is a sign of good health and fertility.

But the general rule is just that, it can be overridden. The overriding factor is your confidence and maturity. Otherwise, all the same techniques will work on women whatever their age relative to yours e.g. how to ask a girl for her number.

Your Maturity

If you’re 25 but you like women in their 30s but you still party every night then you need to think again about what you want. Most women in their 30s do not party like in their youth although you may get lucky and find exactly what you are looking for.

More often, instead of her coming to your level, you are going to have to reach her level. So although you still need to be yourself above all, don’t forget that she may have expectations of a partner that you need to consider, that she would normally expect from guys her age or older.

Confidence

Above all, for women of all ages, what they like is confidence. A man who is decisive, not afraid to just commit himself to an idea or a direction. A man who is a little cocky, very playful and can make them laugh.

I know from talking to guys and from my own personal experience that this can be the hardest part of the seduction jigsaw to complete. Pretty soon I’ll do a review of David De Angelo’s Cocky Comedy which I have heard is very good so stay tuned for that.

Having high standards like this is a good thing but of course it is a more difficult prospect. But whatever you do, don’t settle for anything less than your usual high standards. Don’t sell out!

My Friend

A friend of mine went on a crazy holiday, a little like Spring Break but in Europe. Whereupon he and his friends went out to “pull” some chicks and hopefully have drunken sex with them. My friend decided that he wasn’t having enough success so decided to go for older and uglier chicks. This strategy worked for him.

But ultimately, he let himself down in my opinion. Why settle for less when you can have more? Why lower your own standards?

Imagine Life As A Hot Woman

Hot women or “hot babes” (HBs) as they are often called – can you imagine what life is like for them?

As they walk around, they are gawped at and stared at by tons of tons of guys, mostly chumps. How many of these guys actually walk up, look in her eyes and say “hi”? How many of them actually approach?

You see, these chicks look difficult to attract but in actual fact all you have to do is be different to the norm, show that you’re a cool guy who’s not “afraid” of girls (unlike a chump) and you will stand out from the crowd.

How To Get The HB?

Now you can see that actually HBs are not necessarily harder to get. In many ways, your efforts will get more recognition with them. Really, a regular approach that works with other chicks will also work well with a HB.

Look around this site for more general info on attracting chicks such as body language, techniques, how to approach, how to have good conversation, kino, closing and more. Learning and knowing how to get a hot girlfriend is really not all that different to getting a regular chick – get the basics now and you can refine the complexities later.

So, where do you begin? There is an entire global industry dedicated to attracting women. There are literally terabytes of information, hundreds of thousands of pages on the subject. Where do you start? Let me give you a few tips.

Tip 1 – Appearance

Ultimately as you will see later, even the ugliest and most overweight man in the world can pull a hottie if he knows how to. But having a better appearance will give you confidence and also keep as many opportunities open for you as possible (to make a good first impression).

Seriously, ask yourself – do you dress like a cool guy? Look through your wardrobe and throw out at least 20% of your worst stuff. Be brutally honest with yourself. Now go out and spend a couple hundred bucks on some new threads.

It’s not the fact that they are new that matters. It’s the fact that they help you to look cool.

Also, don’t forget about grooming. Pluck those hairs out of that unibrow. Better to go clean shaven for now. Use mouthwash daily. Get a whitening toothpaste. Consider losing just a little weight if you are currently overweight (this will do wonders for your confidence).

Tip 2 – Techniques

I had a friend who was good at pulling women. I asked him what techniques he used and he just said “make them laugh”. Doh, I knew that already! Basically, he and a few other guys just got lucky when it came to attracting women. They know how to but they don’t consciously think about it.

These days, there are many good books AND videos out there that will teach you the specific techniques. Look around this site and you’ll find many others e.g. my post on body language here.

I also highly recommend investing in at least one good course such as those by RSD, Mystery, Lance Mason, David De Angelo etc. You can see links to these sites in the blogroll on the front page of this site.

Tip 3 – Be Yourself

I know it sounds crazy but ultimately you just want to be yourself. Yes, you do need to work on body language, appearance, some “moves” and techniques etc.

But you also need to just be yourself, show your own personality through. You cannot hide who you are, indeed you should be proud of who you are. So don’t lose sight of this.

Case in point – there is a guy on one of Lance Mason’s videos who pulls out all the techniques on a group of girls. The guy had balls to just sit down and chat with 6 chicks but because he just used techniques, the girls learned nothing about the guy himself and as a result they were only a little attracted to him.